How to get laid or die trying (at your first play party)
Figuring out what works for you at your first sex party can feel like uncharted territory. This session is all about discovering your personal comfort zones and making choices that feel right for you—without killing the vibe. Learn how to manage the “people stuff” like a pro: how do you talk to strangers, how do I come up with an outfit on a budget, what kinds of skills will make people want to talk to approach you? With practical tips and a playful approach, this talk will help you stay true to yourself while keeping things fun, sexy, and respectful.
The format of this workshop will be highly interactive, and uses games to illustrate many of the points, allowing you to build connections while learning through doing.
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Purim Orgy
2026 Purim Orgy: A Sex Positive Party for Adults in Toronto
By royal decree of King Achashverosh, Sovereign of Shushan, Lover of Lavish Banquets, and Occasional Questionable Decisions…You are hereby summoned to a most magnificent Purim Orgy. This is a sex positive party for anyone who wants to celebrate Purim like an adult! Come drink, dance, and make merry as we celebrate the miraculous victory and wild plot twists of the Purim story. Costumes encouraged, decorum optional, foolishness expected.
Check out this instagram post for a bit more background information on what to expect and why we are throwing this party.
Dress Code: Dress like you are part of the Purim story. There will be a costume contest. Typical fetish gear is also accepted, but will not be eligible for the contest. Click here for inspiration.
Tickets: $72
$10 of each ticket will be donated to the Daily Bread Food Bank
Doors: open at 9, all must have entered by 10pm. The Purim Spiel will begin around 10:00. You may see genitals and sexual acts. Costume contest to follow.
Main Floor: The main floor will have a bar where you can purchase drinks, hamentashen, dancing, shmoozing, clothes on fun.
Basement: Play space will be open
Apply here or scan the QR code on the image.
Kinky Skills Intensive - Kinky Scene Crafting
Join us in Toronto for a hands-on event like no other! Our kinky skills workshops will help you build your confidence and skills in a safe and welcoming environment so you can explore your wildest desires.
Dirty Trivia
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Spice up your week with a competition full of cheeky questions and surprising facts, with sexy prizes for the winners who know the most! Grab your team or come solo and test your knowledge of bodies, pleasure, and everything in between. Get ready to brag when you win amazing, spicy prizes. Teams of 2–4 are recommended. Flying solo? Let the hosts know and we'll match you with a trivia partner.
Presented in collaboration with Trusti - a new at-home STI testing platform, providing rapid testing kits + premium follow-up care.
Kinky Skills Intensive - Rope Bondage
Join us in Toronto for a hands-on event like no other! Our kinky skills workshops will help you build your confidence and skills in a safe and welcoming environment so you can explore your wildest desires.
Kinky Skills Intensive - Dirty Talk
Join us in Toronto for a hands-on event like no other! Our kinky skills workshops will help you build your confidence and skills in a safe and welcoming environment so you can explore your wildest desires.
Kinky Skills Intensive - Kinky Roleplay
Join us in Toronto for a hands-on event like no other! Our kinky skills workshops will help you build your confidence and skills in a safe and welcoming environment so you can explore your wildest desires.
Kinky Skills Intensive - Impact Play
Join us in Toronto for a hands-on event like no other! Our kinky skills workshops will help you build your confidence and skills in a safe and welcoming environment so you can explore your wildest desires.
Kinky Skills Intensive - Shame and Trauma
Join us in Toronto for a hands-on event like no other! Our kinky skills workshops will help you build your confidence and skills in a safe and welcoming environment so you can explore your wildest desires.
Jealousy Masterclass
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Learn how to conquer jealousy and cultivate healthy relationships at our Jealousy Masterclass!
Feeling overwhelmed by jealous feelings in your relationships? This is a crash course on why you're feeling jealous and what to do about it so you can stop. This workshop is targeted to the consensual non monogamous/ ethical non monogamous communities, but is open to all relationship models.
This workshop begins with a lecture on the common roots of jealousy and how to identify the feelings and relational needs underpinning yours. We explore how jealousy manifests in your relationships and how all partners can play a part in the healing process. We deep dive into different techniques to manage your feelings in a healthy and productive way.
This is a cozy small group training that blends information with active opportunities to reflect and practice.
Location
The workshop will take place at the Kneeling room near Carlton and Parliament. The exact location will be given out to all participants.
What you need
Dress comfortably - this is a shoes off venue.
Bring any note taking devices you need
Snacks/beverages of your choice
About Your Facilitators:
Rae Szereszewski is a certified sex educator and Options for Sexual Health SHEC graduate, and has a Bachelor of Design in Fashion and Apparel Design from Toronto Metropoligan University. She wants to help people struggle less when it comes to navigating their sexual health, interpersonal relationships, and physical bodies. Her goal is to help you make empowered, authentic, and informed choices.
In addition to her experience as a latex designer, she spent 8 years creating sex positive events at Oasis Aqualounge, a lifestyle club, and has worked in a variety of roles in event planning, community building, mentorship, and project coordination.
Learn more about Rae at www.ShareWithRae.com
As a Sexual Health Educator, Sex and Confidence Coach, and founder of the Erotes Sex Museum, Marisa Swinton is dedicated to educating communities on sex, sexuality, and their profound intersections with our lives and humanity. Through a combination of educational resources, art, and engaging exhibits, she strives to foster a deeper understanding and appreciation of sexual health. Her work also involves collaborating with women and couples to revitalize their sex lives, helping them overcome sexual shame and embrace their full sexual potential.
Erotic Arts and Crafts Fair
A free market! I will be vending art and some limited swag.
Come join us this Valentine's Day: February 14, 2026 for Come As You Are's annual Erotic Arts and Crafts Fair at the Parkdale Hall in Toronto! The EACF is a one-of-a-kind sexy fair that brings together artists and crafters just in time for Valentine's Day.
Come As You Are's Erotic Arts & Crafts Fair first launched back in 2007, and our host since 2020 has been the gloriously restored Parkdale Hall. A timeless setting with a stunning 1920s ceiling backdrop in Toronto's Roncesvalles/Parkdale neighbourhood on Queen Street West.
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Sharing is Caring: Intro to Non Monogamy
UTSEC Presents: Sharing is Caring, Intro to Non Monogamy
Join us for an open discussion on navigating the world of non-monogamous relationships - all are welcome to share and learn! Click here to reserve your spot.
Open relationships are increasingly being portrayed in the media, but no one ever explains the terminology or how to bring it up in your relationship. If you're curious about ethical non monogamy, polyamory, swinging, and everything in between, we're here to show you how sharing is caring. This workshop is a crash course into relationship models that are the alternative of monogamy. We’ll talk about the differences between romantic and sexual relationships, communication styles, and how to bring up non monogamy in your relationships!
Non Monogamy 201: Workshop and Social
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So… you’ve got the basics of non-monogamy down. Now it’s time to level up.
Non-Monogamy 201 is a deeper-dive workshop for people who are already practicing (or seriously exploring) ethical/consensual non-monogamy and want to navigate the real challenges that arise once theory meets lived experience.
In this interactive session, we’ll explore:
Jealousy - your next steps for handling unwanted jealousy
Compersion - learn what factors will makecompersion more accessible
Navigating unfair relationship rules - how to spot them, negotiate them, and find healthier alternatives that work for all people in a relationship
Exploring the internal and external pressures, like people pleasing or judgmental families.
Kink 101
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About The Event
Curious about kink but not sure where to start? This gentle, beginner-friendly class is designed for anyone who wants to understand the foundations of kink in a safe, welcoming environment. Whether you’re exploring solo, with a partner, or simply following your curiosity, this workshop will help you build knowledge, confidence, and a sense of what feels right for you.
In this session, we’ll explore:
Types of play: from sensation to power exchange and everything in between
How to prepare for different kinds of scenes: tools, conversations, mindset, and aftercare
Safety considerations: physical, emotional, and relational
Consent and communication skills that set you up for satisfying experiences
Non Monogamy 201
Virtual: Click here for tickets
Stay tuned for an in person version and social at Birdhaus on January 22. Click here for tickets.
So… you’ve got the basics of non-monogamy down. Now it’s time to level up.
Non-Monogamy 201 is a deeper-dive workshop for people who are already practicing (or seriously exploring) ethical/consensual non-monogamy and want to navigate the real challenges that arise once theory meets lived experience.
In this interactive session, we’ll explore:
Jealousy - your next steps for handling unwanted jealousy
Compersion - learn what factors will makecompersion more accessible
Navigating unfair relationship rules - how to spot them, negotiate them, and find healthier alternatives that work for all people in a relationship
Exploring the internal and external pressures, like people pleasing or judgmental families.
Choking Hazard
Choking Hazard: Intro to Breath Play at the Forbidden Fruit Kink Market
Register here
Shop for sexy holiday gifts at the market, and join me at 9:00pm for the workshop.
Breath play can be intense, intimate, and deeply connective, when it’s done with skill, intention, and care. This one-hour workshop is designed to give you a practical introduction to breath play techniques and safety considerations.
The beginning will be safety and negotiation, with a hands on portion at the end with time for Q&A.We will be learning a few styles of chokes, including Jiu Jitsu based chokes using legs. You can learn with your body, or just watch.
Kink 101
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Time & Location
Dec 10, 2025, 7:30 p.m. – 9:30 p.m.
Birdhaus, 1233R Queen St W, Toronto, ON M6K 1L5, Canada
About The Event
Curious about kink but not sure where to start? This gentle, beginner-friendly class is designed for anyone who wants to understand the foundations of kink in a safe, welcoming environment. Whether you’re exploring solo, with a partner, or simply following your curiosity, this workshop will help you build knowledge, confidence, and a sense of what feels right for you.
In this session, we’ll explore:
Types of play: from sensation to power exchange and everything in between
How to prepare for different kinds of scenes: tools, conversations, mindset, and aftercare
Safety considerations: physical, emotional, and relational
Consent and communication skills that set you up for satisfying experiences
Art, Kink, and Trauma Healing - An afternoon retreat
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Join us for an enriching afternoon dedicated to exploring alternative modalities healing targeted to the kink community. Blending elements of learning and therapy, this afternoon retreat offers a unique opportunity to delve into new pathways towards resilience and self-discovery, incporporating your kink identities and journey into the process.
Retreat Itinerary
Opening Tea Ceremony
How do we create containers for us to switch into a specific mindset? This opening tea ceremony will have you choosing ingredients for your own unique blend, connecting your body to your intent.
Healing Trauma with Kink with Rae Szereszewski
A seminar delving into how trauma affects the body and brain, how kink impacts the brain, and when and how kink can be used as a healing modality for trauma. During Q&A, participants will get a chance to talk about their own experiences and get ideas on how they could incorporate healing elements into their scenes and dynamics.
Art Therapy with Jessica Hartig
We will be using art therapy to take a hands-on approach in processing the healing that kink practices can have on individuals with trauma. In art therapy, the process is more important than the product - we aren't looking to create for the purpose of aesthetic, we are looking to create for the purpose of expression.
Community Building
A facilitated and mediated session to self reflect and engage in dialogue to break stigma and end shame.
What you need
Cozy clothes and comfort items! All other supplies will be provided.
About the Facilitators
Rae Szereszewski
Rae Szereszewski is a certified sex educator and Options for Sexual Health SHEC graduate, and has a Bachelor of Design in Fashion and Apparel Design from Ryerson University. She wants to help people struggle less when it comes to navigating their sexual health, interpersonal relationships, and physical bodies. Her goal is to help you make empowered, authentic, and informed choices.
In addition to her experience as a latex designer, she spent 8 years creating sex positive events at Oasis Aqualounge, a lifestyle club, and has worked in a variety of roles in event planning, community building, mentorship, and project coordination.
Learn more about Rae at www.ShareWithRae.com
Jessica Hartig
Jessi (she/her) is a queer & neurodivergent therapist and artist. Her background is in art therapy and she believes in the powerful healing that can come from expressing yourself through creation. As a therapist she takes a trauma-informed and person-centred approach, recognizing that each person has unique needs and growth processes. I am informed through adademic and lived experiences in 2SLGBTQIA+ identities, polyamorous relationships, kink/BDSM, sexual abuse/surviving, and trauma processing.
Dirty Trivia
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Spice up your week with a competition full of cheeky questions and surprising facts, with sexy prizes for the winners who know the most! Grab your team or come solo and test your knowledge of bodies, pleasure, and everything in between. Get ready to brag when you win. Teams of 2–4 are recommended. Flying solo? Let the hosts know and we'll match you with a trivia partner.
Presented in collaboration with Trusti - a new at-home STI testing platform, providing rapid testing kits + premium follow-up care.
Kinky Skills Intensive - Sensation Play
Join us in Toronto for a hands-on event like no other! Our kinky skills workshops will help you build your confidence and skills in a safe and welcoming environment so you can explore your wildest desires.
Kinky Skills Intensive - High vs Low Protocol
Join us in Toronto for a hands-on event like no other! Our kinky skills workshops will help you build your confidence and skills in a safe and welcoming environment so you can explore your wildest desires.
Kinky Skills Intensive - Fetish Fashion
Join us in Toronto for a hands-on event like no other! Our kinky skills workshops will help you build your confidence and skills in a safe and welcoming environment so you can explore your wildest desires.
Kinky Skills Intensive - Body is a Wonderland
Join us in Toronto for a hands-on event like no other! Our kinky skills workshops will help you build your confidence and skills in a safe and welcoming environment so you can explore your wildest desires.
Anal 101
We cover anatomy, preparation, hygiene, lube, toys, and how to give and receive pleasure in ways that feel safe, consensual, and fun. Whether you’re curious, a beginner, or looking for toy recommendations, this workshop creates a judgment-free space to learn, ask questions, and expand your pleasure possibilities.
Kinky Skills Intensive - Rough Body Play
Join us in Toronto for a hands-on event like no other! Our kinky skills workshops will help you build your confidence and skills in a safe and welcoming environment so you can explore your wildest desires.
Kinky Skills Intensive - D/S Relationships
Join us in Toronto for a hands-on event like no other! Our kinky skills workshops will help you build your confidence and skills in a safe and welcoming environment so you can explore your wildest desires.
Down the Rabbit Hole - Pleasure and Empowerment
Where can we feel sexual pleasure in our bodies? How can I be a better lover, and help my partner experience more pleasure when we're being intimate? This two hour workshop will teach you about where pleasure is stimulated, the science of desire, and what toys will help you get to the big finish in new ways.
How to Get Laid or Die Trying at your first Sexy party
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Figuring out what works for you at your first sex party can feel like uncharted territory. This session is all about discovering your personal comfort zones and making choices that feel right for you—without killing the vibe. Learn how to manage the “people stuff” like a pro: how do you talk to strangers, how do I come up with an outfit on a budget, what kinds of skills will make people want to talk to approach you? With practical tips and a playful approach, this talk will help you stay true to yourself while keeping things fun, sexy, and respectful.
The format of this workshop will be highly interactive, and uses games to illustrate many of the points, allowing you to build connections while learning through doing.
Sharing is Caring: Intro to Non Monogamy Lecture & Social
Open relationships are becoming increasingly more common in media & everyday life. But if someone claims to have an open relationship, poly, or CNM... how do we know what these terms mean? More importantly, how do we bring it up in our own relationships? If you're curious about ethical non monogamy, polyamory, swinging, and everything in between, this is your introduction!
Sharing is Caring: Intro to Non Monogamy (VIRTUAL)
Open relationships are becoming increasingly more common in media & everyday life. But if someone claims to have an open relationship, poly, or CNM... how do we know what these terms mean? More importantly, how do we bring it up in our own relationships? If you're curious about ethical non monogamy, polyamory, swinging, and everything in between, this is your introduction!
Down the Rabbit Hole - Pleasure and Empowerment
Where can we feel sexual pleasure in our bodies? How can I be a better lover, and help my partner experience more pleasure when we're being intimate? This two hour workshop will teach you about where pleasure is stimulated, the science of desire, and what toys will help you get to the big finish in new ways.
Sex Trivia
Think you've got what it takes to be crowned a Sex Panther? Join us for Sex Trivia Night! Show off your skills in anatomy, history, myths vs. truths and sex ed fails we all believed.
Open to all genders and identities, ages 18+.
Bring your friends, your questions, and let's get frisky!
STI Pride
As much as we love sex, an open, inclusive, and de-stigmatized approach to sexuality involves an awareness of STIs. They’re common, they’re normal, but we still don’t know how to talk about them.
This panel discussion, led by Rae Szereszewski and Amanda VanDenBrock, will address a range of topics regarding STIs in sex positive communities.
Kinky Skills Intensive - Shame and Trauma
Join us in Toronto for a hands-on event like no other! Our kinky skills workshops will help you build your confidence and skills in a safe and welcoming environment so you can explore your wildest desires.
Kink 101 Workshop
In this 2 hour workshop, Sex Educators and Sexuality Coaches Rae Szereszewski & Marisa Swinton explore Kink, BDSM, and everything in between. We’ll be talking about the different types of kinks - not just the kind that include a whip. Get ready to explore the limit of your comfort zones, dive into what you might be missing, and leave wanting more.
Kinky Skills Intensive - Impact Play
Join us in Toronto for a hands-on event like no other! Our kinky skills workshops will help you build your confidence and skills in a safe and welcoming environment so you can explore your wildest desires.
Kinky Skills Intensive - Kinky Roleplay
Join us in Toronto for a hands-on event like no other! Our kinky skills workshops will help you build your confidence and skills in a safe and welcoming environment so you can explore your wildest desires.
Kinky Skills Intensive - Dirty Talk
Join us in Toronto for a hands-on event like no other! Our kinky skills workshops will help you build your confidence and skills in a safe and welcoming environment so you can explore your wildest desires.
Jealousy Masterclass
Feeling overwhelmed by jealous feelings in your relationships? This is a crash course on why you're feeling jealous and what to do about it so you can stop.
Kinky Skills Intensive - Rope/Bondage
Join us in Toronto for a hands-on event like no other! Our kinky skills workshops will help you build your confidence and skills in a safe and welcoming environment so you can explore your wildest desires.